Creating an awareness that we are on the pattern of destroying ourselves is not an easy task. Many times we are blind despite having the same chaotic result over and over again. We keep asking ourselves why oh why we are in the same nuts again and again. Until we become so sick and tired of being sick and tired that we finally seek resolve on how to break the pattern that enslave us to our grave.
It will be difficult to break the cycles without looking at the roots of why those chaos producing patterns are happening in the first place. I guess it all begins during the time that we are making observations and conclusion of who we are and how most of our basic needs are being provided, when we were very young.
Based on those conclusion and observation we define ourselves. We keep telling and repeating to ourselves and to the world who we are rightly or wrongly. We live by that definition regardless of the cost. As adult we validate those beliefs about ourselves by what we do and by the choices we made. If we believe we are unworthy and do not deserve anything, chances are we will be doing things and making choices that will validate our unworthiness. It’s as simple as that.
Our loving and well-meaning parents provided us the best of the basic forgetting that we are more than our physical beings. We are emotional and spiritual being as well. The need to be love, to be appreciated, to belong, to count and to find our purpose and meaning can easily be overlook which is as equally important as providing for our basic need of shelter, foods and clothes.
In trying to meet those emotional needs we create psychological strategies within our internal framework. This is where most of the irrational thoughts and patterns originate along with the conclusions and observations we formulate. Those irrational thinking somehow provided us some sort of security. We keep repeating them because it runs on auto pilot, we know what to expect.
When we learn to really shut down, keep quiet and observe the thoughts we have that creates the chaotic result, we are on our way to making new patterns that is life fulfilling. It is by bringing the distortions into the light, becoming vulnerable to another human being by admitting that there are some distortions along the way, by being honest and accepting of both our weakness and strength that we will eventually break the cycle of self-destruction.
The last but not the least and that which required so much force is to activate the energy required to break the chaotic pattern. Breaking the cycles require actions one step at a time, it will not going to happen inside our head. It will be uncomfortable initially but it is worth the try.
Hello Aui, I am responding to your comment you left on my intermittent fasting post andi could not respond on the actual post so I hope you don’t mind that I respond here. First off just wanted to say you’re welcome and that I am sorry for your loss. It is tough to control what you eat after not eating for 16 hours but if you keep your diet high in protein and drink over a gallon of water a day, it will make it easier for you to control your cravings. Your timing is right as long as it works with your schedule. Just keep your protein high and your carbs/fats/sugars in check and you will see weight loss in no time. Keep me posted on your results i am always here for questions and advice.
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Ok Thank you so much. I will start doing it today. How often do you suggest fro me to do it in a week?
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When I did it I did it for a whole week right off the bat. Depending on how quick you lose weight, the second week I dropped it to 6 days, then 5 days for the last two weeks. I lost a good amount of weight so I did not want to over do it. I also recommend taking a multi vitamin as well.
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ok. I see. Thank you so much and I’ll keep you posted. I’ve been trying to access to your site since yesterday but I cannot, you have idea about that?
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I changed the site recently. You read my post on millionaires digest. You can access my other articles and reach me at elitefitnessdigest.wordpress.com
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Ill check it. I also contribute articles at Millionaires Digest.
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I cannot access to your site.
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This is wonderful, because it is true. I have a long list of bad habits/coping mechanisms that I picked up trying to escape sexual abuse, and I don’t want the damages pills and alcohol and cigarettes wreak on my health, liver and kidney damage, cancer, and impaired judgment being only a few. Thank you for these words!
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