Losing a child is a parent’s worst nightmares and when it happens to you, all you would like to do is to be able to wake up. Here are the things I’ve learned that made me change the way I live my life after losing JC:
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Nothing really dies
When this body goes back to earth it will soon become ashes, the thing it was made of. It will transform into the element where it comes from and a new life will come out of it. The cycle of living happens again. How can I refuse to believe that my son’s spirit is alive when it is continuously used by God to transform me?
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People are not just a human being
We are a spiritual being with human existence. Our body is just a container of what we really are. We came from a Divine source which is nothing but love and goodness, how can we be otherwise. When the container is destroyed, the contents remain.
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Today is everything I’ve got
Nobody can promise what’s going to happen tomorrow. I may have plans, but God had His plans as well that will prevail whether I like it or not. Just obey Him and enjoy life here and now, it makes a lot of sense.
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I will never stop missing my son, I just need to learn how to live with it
It is like when someone loses a limb, there’s really nothing one can do but to live using what’s left.
5. I don’t own anything
Everything is borrowed. I do not own my children, not even my material possessions. They belong to the one who created them in the first place. Everything I’ve got can be taken from me in a wink of an eye if the real owner wants. All I can do is to make the most of what I’ve got while they were being lent to me.
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People rarely grow up, they just become taller
This is what happens when we only focus on attending to our physical needs. We forget that the need to be loved, the need to be appreciated, the need to know that we matter are equally important to grow up. We are not all physical. We are soul, spirit, and body.No wonder why according to Mother Teresa, there is more hunger for love than bread in this world.
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There are people who can drink wine and there are those who cannot
It was God himself who commanded Moses so. It remains the same today, according to the latest research findings. Either we believe or we perish.
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In every pain, there is gain
And the gain will always depend on how I look at every situation that comes my way.
It’s touching! Yes u right in your every word… God give you the strength to live with the pain and all the parents out there!
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Thank you 🙂
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A profound and moving post.
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Thank you 🙂
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So touching, the bond between will never cease. Beautiful post ❤️
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Thank you:)
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Yes, God tests us your patience and prayers will make his soul reach the highest clouds of heaven,he’s alive always and would want his mom never to be sad or crying, he wants you to live for him,
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Thank you. Your words put a smile on my heart 🙂
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Thank you!
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Wow! That is a very goood post! Great lesson! I can tell you have a lot of courage! Great job! Keep being strong! You are definitely right about the process of the body when it goes underneath the ground! Great post once again and do stay strong! Your son will always be with you!
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Thank you so much for your kind word. They mean a lot to me 🙂
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You se very welcome!
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🙂
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I am so sorry that you lost your son. Your post was beautiful …
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Thank you.
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It is wonderful to see that you have made a way to work through your separation from your son; nothing is permanent where live is involved. I wish you the best on your continued growth and strength.
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thank you!
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You are very brave to keep living-it’s a lot more than just waking up and sleeping.
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Sometimes I am telling God if I cannot get better might as well get me. But he doesn’t yet so I think He will get me better!! Lol
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I hear you Sometimes i think He is cruel, but I am scared to actually say it in case He strikes me with more wrath. I wish I wasn’t quite so scared of Him, but my experience with holiness and men and love has been very twisted and I get sad because I can’t help how I feel or what happened to me, but like I’m forced to believe in Him or be struck with dire consequences.
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in time it will get better.as we keep working our relationship with ourselves, our relationship with God and with others follows. twisted concepts of God, love and ourselves will become clear.I find writing helps a lot in this journey of better perspective and reading good stuff and listening to people who have gone through the same and make it.
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I am trying to feel more love from Him than obligation to serve It’s in my prayers, but I don’t say them out loud because they sound like complaining to me
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That feeling that we are love by a really loving God will get us through.The concept of obligation to serve probably came to us because it is what was thought during the time we were growing up. But if we don’t consider it an obligation instead a beautiful relationship being develop with God where we are becoming who we really are and what he wants us to be the desire to serve will be a natural byproduct.It is really knowing ourself and our God and replacing the misconception we’ve had in the process.And it will all start with us making an effort to do so..as we keep seeking more will be revealed!
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Bless you, you always know what to say I can’t help but smile when I want to let go so badly. Even if I quit on Him I’d be back and because of my nature I feel I’d be right back, like God is just another manipulator. In my heart I know it isn’t true, I just struggle to see past my distrust.
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Thanks! I will. I have seen in my life how writing saved me all throughout.I am really greatful i started blogging. Thanks again and peace be with you also.
Aui
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I find in your writing what I see in mine…I started my blog not with any altruistic reasons, simply to express my pain, growth, healing, struggles, etc. What happened was fellow survivors of sexual abuse began writing me back saying things like, “I’ve felt the same way”, or “I’m glad to know I’m not alone with that particular challenge”. So it was cathartic for me, and then it became helpful for others. What blossomed was something totally unexpected, a group to help others who’d been through what I had, or their loved ones to better understand them and their pain. I write this to say to you….keep writing. You are helping others whether you mean to or want to. And that’s a very good thing 🙂 I can’t imagine losing one of our 2 boys, but I’m thankful you’re strong enough to share your pain so that others may find one of the most important facets of humanity…that THEY are NOT alone either, you genuinely feel their pain and they yours. Peace be with you, Dave
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You have a great perspective and your faith is admirable. You are correct, losing a child is a parents worst fear, but everything is survivable if you remember from whenst you came. God promised we’d see our loved ones again the when and where is left to Him. Thanks for stopping by my blog because now I’ve found you!
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I’ll keep in touch. I’m very new in this blogging comunity.I’m greatful as well for finding you here.
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I am only now getting a following, but it takes a while. Good luck and you’re doing fine!
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thanks!
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