Losing a child is a parent’s worst nightmares and when it happens to you, all you would like to do is to be able to wake up. Here are the things I’ve learned that made me change the way I live my life after losing JC:




  1. Nothing really dies

When this body goes back to earth it will soon become ashes, the thing it was made of. It will transform into the element where it comes from and a new life will come out of it. The cycle of living happens again. How can I refuse to believe that my son’s spirit is alive when it is continuously used by God to transform me?

  1. People are not just a human being

We are a spiritual being with human existence. Our body is just a container of what we really are. We came from a Divine source which is nothing but love and goodness, how can we be otherwise. When the container is destroyed, the contents remain.

  1. Today is everything I’ve got

Nobody can promise what’s going to happen tomorrow. I may have plans, but God had His plans as well that will prevail whether I like it or not. Just obey Him and enjoy life here and now, it makes a lot of sense.

  1. I will never stop missing my son, I just need to learn how to live with it

It is like when someone loses a limb, there’s really nothing one can do but to live using what’s left.

    5. I don’t own anything

Everything is borrowed. I do not own my children, not even my material possessions. They belong to the one who created them in the first place. Everything I’ve got can be taken from me in a wink of an eye if the real owner wants. All I can do is to make the most of what I’ve got while they were being lent to me.

  1. People rarely  grow up, they just become taller

This is what happens when we only focus on attending to our physical needs. We forget that the need to be loved, the need to be appreciated, the need to know that we matter are equally important to grow up. We are not all physical. We are soul, spirit, and body.No wonder why according to Mother Teresa, there is more hunger for love than bread in this world.

  1. There are people who can drink wine and there are those who cannot

It was God himself who commanded Moses so. It remains the same today, according to the latest research findings. Either we believe or we perish.

  1. In every pain, there is gain

And the gain will always depend on how I look at every situation that comes my way.